5 tips to help adjust your mindset and ‘ghost’ mom guilt

HUNTSVILLE, Ala. (TENNESSEE VALLEY LIVING) - All moms have felt it... that nagging mom guilt that always comes out in our less-than-perfect moments.

The standards set on mom by society, as well as your own expectations can be unattainable, overwhelming, and the start of a perpetual cycle of never being enough. While she can’t promise a magic solution, here are 5 tips from Habit and Success Coach Shannon Carothers that can help you adjust your mindset and ‘ghost’ mom guilt.

1. Reframe Your Expectations for Motherhood:

It’s crucial to adjust your expectations and let go of the notion of being a ‘perfect’ mother. Instead, strive to be a ‘good enough’ parent who does their best. Through your efforts and your resilience in the face of challenges, you’ll teach your children valuable life lessons.

2. Prioritize Self-Care and Self-Reflection:

Take time for self-care by checking in with yourself regularly. Get curious about your physical and emotional well-being. Identify what you need, both physically and emotionally, and make it a priority in your routine.

3. Escape the Comparison Trap:

Break free from the trap of comparison, particularly on social media. Unfollow accounts or individuals who trigger negative feelings. Understand that parenting is not one-size-fits-all; what works best for your child and your family is unique to your circumstances.

4. Seek Support and Practice Vulnerability:

Finding friends who can offer support is vital. Be open and vulnerable with them, sharing your experiences and feelings. More often than not, you’ll discover that others have similar thoughts and experiences, leading to the reassuring response of “me too.”

5. Practice Self-Compassion:

Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you extend to a friend. Cultivate a habit of self-compassion by engaging in positive self-talk, especially during moments when guilt or self-doubt arise. Remember that you’re doing your best as a parent, and it’s perfectly acceptable to be kind to yourself.

To book Shannon as a coach, visit her website and check out The Successful Mama Podcast!

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Ellen McDonald

Ellen McDonald

Ellen McDonald joined WAFF 48 News in May 2023 as the Head Booker and Digital Content Producer at Tennessee Valley Living.